wow, never really read this thread. i thought it wouldn't really happen to me or anything...thinking "hopefully" at the time i noticed this thread. days later it happens. now i think im ready to talk about it?
dated her for 10 months. longest relationship for myself and for her lol. went through alot from getting involved with people we don't wanna mess with, to a 3rd person in relationship, breaking up etc.
one day she thought she was missing out on a lot of fun since we both dedicated pretty much all our free time to each other, only times we don't see each other are: class time, washroom, bath, sleep. otherwise we'd be either talking on the phone whenever we don't see each other. her dad didn't really let her date but her mom knew about me and treated me like a son.
her dad found out about me some how and told her to leave me. she told me to wait for her for 1 year till she could date. i don't know if the dad thing was true or not. but a while later 3 of my mutual friends told me the main reason of her breaking up with me wasn't her dad, it was her thinking that she wants more time away from me and explore the outside world. till this day she hasn't told me that.
on the day she told me her dad found out she promised me that we would still talk on the phone, go out, spend time together etc. only difference is in the title, but our positions in our hearts will never change. i never got a phone call, text, or even an msn message. 3 days later she tells me that she thinks im taking it too serious in a way of a relationship, i stood there with my mouth wide open=O. what about the promise she made? her reply was "promises are meant to be broken."
about 2 days later, another boy comes along, picking her up from school, going out with her on weekends and even weekdays. i ask her "don't you see what this guy's trying to do?" she says no. i ask her "why would he pick you up from school 3 days of the school week? and ask you out on weekends?" and her reply was "he's nice to everyone" my reply was "ask him to drive me home please! if he's so nice eh? why doesn't he drive other girls home? do the math, 5 days in a school week. he drives you in 3/5 of them. isn't he unfair to the other people he drives home? or if they even exist?" she just dozed off onto another topic. i didn't see a point in staying on the same topic either since she had no intention of keeping the same topic anyways.
days later i had all the stuff that bottled up inside explode, i decided to tell her how i felt. i was totally out of mind breaking things, crying, just nuts, and i told her all the stuff, she tells me "when some feelings are gone, they're gone. im sorry but i don't like you anymore"
about 2 weeks later, a really close friend of both of us tells me "the boy asked her to be his gf, she was about to say yes. but ended up saying no, her reason being that the guy was 5 years older than her." few weeks later after a load of stuff happened which i'll explain later, she admits the boy asking her to be his gf, but she claimed she said no cuz she still liked me and whatever she told me before about not liking me, she claimed that she didn't mean them....wtfbbq?
since she told me she didn't like me anymore and before she told me that she didn't mean it when she said she didn't like me, i decided to see if i should try to let go, i met this girl from a friend's birthday party. we both thought we were the person each other were looking for. we talked on the phone, msn, web cammed till 7am for like 5 days straight. but whenever i went out with this new gf, i could just relate things to my ex. the relationship with this new gf didn't last more than 2 weeks. she just dozed off and she now likes my friend which i'll later talk about.
when i went out with the new gf, i could relate things i see to my ex, for example if i took the bus, i would never sit on the few spots cuz my ex hated those spots either from bad memories, experiences or whatever there was...
i was bored and i looked through my photo albums on my comp which is the only thing i have organized. i randomly looked into my "ex girlfriends" folder, i realized about 85% of the pics were her and i. each memory or picture i could remember the approximate or even exact date. and all the quotes that we said and a visual memory of how we took the picture etc. thats when i realized i couldn't let go.
about a week later i decided to pull out something from valentines day, she made me a valentine's day card from scratch and on the back there were 3 coupons she drew. one said "One free hug." 2nd one said "One free kiss." the 3rd said "One free_____(you write it^^)" and no im not gonna write "One free blow job", i wrote "One free love life with xxxxxx"(her chinese nickname) and presented it to her at the place of our first kiss, first hug, and where we first started out relationship. i lied to her about having to buy a gift for a friend, and i told her i have a coupon i wanna use. at the spot i told her "i lied about buying the gift, but i do have a coupon i want to use!" and her reply was "but i said we have to wait till grade 12(in girly voice and giggles)" long pause......and she says "can i have some time to think about it? to be honest i wanna be with you but i don't know if i wanna be with you cuz i really love you or if i feel sorry for you." then i just said "ok? well.... sure..."
one week from the time she tells me she wants to "think" and at the time that gave me hope, i found out she's dating my friend....i went berserk and randomly said the meanest things i've ever said to anyone to the guy, and my ex. i do deeply regret for the things i've said. her bf tells me that he knows how i feel, i tell him "you don't, yeah it sounds like another case of a friend dating your ex, but wait! there's more....when you still like your ex? when your ex tells gives you hope exactly 7 days ago?" he was sorta speechless. he did share a little about how he had a friend date his ex. but i don't think he knows exactly how i feel... but i do respect him for not blowing up at me while i blew up at him saying the meanest things i've ever said to anyone except my ex which i blew up at before blowing up to him.
this is pretty much the end of the main part of the story la.
up above in one of the paragraphs i said i'd talk about the gf that lasted 2 weeks liking my friend, 3 days before that we held hands, hugged etc. i was at her house and she lived really far away in surrey, she said things like "don't go" "don't leave" "i don't want you to leave" etc. and my friend tells me "dude she's so fucking annoying, she messages me on msn so much saying all this *yuk ma* stuff" he copied and pasted some of the stuff to me, and i just felt butterflies in my stomach...thats pretty it =P
sorry for all the bad grammar or whatever, im not an essay person lol, thanks for reading, this is only my part of the story, my ex has her part, her friends that i don't know think im "the bad guy". they haven't really heard of my part and they judge....fuck those ass holes that make judgements based on one side of the story.
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Subject: Friends dating your ex's. 
Mon Nov 03, 2008 6:25 am
but aniwaise good one 
